by Marie Neubauer
Finally! Back to school, for a whole month! I cannot be the only parent saying that, right?
Even though my kids don’t say it, I know they are glad to be back. Both of my kids were up at 6AM the first day of school and ready, promptly. That doesn’ happen often.
The first week back was different. Half the kids, alternating the days they went to school. It was a great way to introduce the kids to the new rules for social distancing and PPE practices.
I may not agree with all of the new rules for the school, but I’m sure glad I didn’t have to make the decision for the entire district. I really feel for the board members that were under that pressure because no one would be happy with any decision made.
I’m glad that Fall is here. Sure it’s busy with harvest, school, work, football, volleyball, and the list goes on, but oddly it brings a sense of normalcy. Back to the grind of everyday tasks. Keeping busy. Too busy. Somedays it feels like I don’t turn my pickup off!
The stress level is amped up this year. What I have noticed, my kids are stressed too. Kids show stress just like we do. They are fast to get frustrated and angry. My daughter becomes frustrated quickly with homework. I completely understand! They were robbed out of half of a semester of school and are being pushed to make up time. My son is quick to anger with others when he asks for help and doesn’t get it. I completely understand! It can be very overwhelming when you are expected to help someone but you don’t get the same response back.
What is the appropriate way to handle this? When I become frustrated and angry, I walk away or others walk away from me. It is so hard as a parent to allow your child to be mad. Instantly, you want to solve the problem for them and smooth things over. Is that the best way? My answer is no. I try to let my kids go through the ups and downs of their emotions. Sometimes we talk about it. What happened? Was it worth getting this mad? Now how are we going to get over it?
Was it worth getting this mad? That is a million dollar question. Most of the time the answer is no, however it’s an emotion that is easily fed. I am reminded of a Bible verse:
19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
I think I’m going to print it off and stick it on the refrigerator door for a daily reminder!